Three Powerful Ways To Write Your Healing Book
What to do when the urge to write your healing book is strong. Here are three ways to consider to help you get your story out.
There are many times when the urge to write your story is so strong that it drives you almost to distraction. There will be the many experiences that you have had to endure, and the incredible adventure that you have been on.
There will be times when not much makes sense and other times of flow and joy. Life is full of contrasting moments, twists and turns that take you goodness knows where.
You will know when that time comes when you have to write this stuff down. For some that will be a book. In fact, the urge and drive to write your book will become overpowering.
- But you wonder who will read it?
- What is the point?
- Will I be able to do anything with it?
The truth is when it comes to a book that is going to help you to heal none of that matters. What matters is that you write. You may never publish, you might, but that is not always the point.
When I first started to coach, because writing was my thing, people asked me if I could help them to write a book. They also wanted to receive healing and guidance. It seemed to me that all of these things naturally went together.
Writing and writing a book of any form is in itself very cathartic, when combined with someone who listens and can see the deeper meaning creates a powerful change process.
They didn’t publish because the purpose of the book was to get their story and emotions out and heal. This way of coaching is rewarding and is something that I don’t advertise but it is something I still do occasionally.
Although I confess I want the books to be published as the content carried such an energetic force. I knew that others reading this will be inspired. But of course, that is never my decision. I am the facilitator and blessed to be trusted with this.
We are all on a learning journey where different people, philosophies, messages and teachings come into our lives at just the right time, as if we are magnetically drawing them to us. Each of these make us who we are, and it is never by accident. Therefore, it is never by accident that you feel drawn to write your story.
But what of you and your story, is the book that you want to write one to heal or is it one to heal and to heal others?
Write a healing book
We rarely find ourselves on a healing journey by accident as you will discover as you move through writing your book. The path to successful healing (wholeness) can be extended and strenuous. It may involve pitfalls and obstacles, but it will none the less be rewarding.
It is very likely that you are simultaneously encountering multi-dimensional, intertwining, crisscrossing journeys. How those journeys go depends on your willingness to open yourself up to the knowledge and wisdom you receive and consider with purpose and faith what the messages mean. What clues they provide are part of your inner guidance system.
With the best will in the world (and the best planning) you will not be able to anticipate everything. Therefore, you must be willing to adapt and change as necessary. Having an open mind and heart will help you to navigate any uncharted highways and byways of this life.
Like it or not, we often have to change and to adapt to changing and challenging circumstances in our lives, the lives of our loved ones, and in our environment. We don’t merely tolerate change for change’s sake, we embrace and accept it so that our soul’s journey through this life is much more pleasurable.
In some respect, your journey is a journey without end, until you reach the end of your Earthly existence. You will rarely reach the exact outcomes you set out to achieve and be able to say, ‘yep that’s it, I have arrived.’ More likely you will be flowing from experience to experience, which after a period of reflection you can from your new vantage point, create, design or envision the next step of your journey with new perspectives and outcomes.
Your book then will be a part of your healing experience. It will and can be a fantastic transformative process. I hope too that it allows you to accept the lessons that you have been given without judgement, shame and guilt.
When you write a healing book, you write it so that you can heal, grow and change – period.
A tale of two healing books
When I wrote Healing Osteoporosis Naturally (not yet published), it followed my story from the moment my spine fractured, over a year of discovery (personal and medical) and it will end two years later with the results of my hard work. This step by step approach worked for me and my healing. Although the personal experience at the time was horrible.
Likewise, when I wrote Rude Awakenings, A Journey To Self-Love, I followed my story from discovering my then husbands’ double life to learning to love myself. This book, once I’d written it, was assigned to a healing book which I do not want to publish. Writing it was massively cathartic and it served its purpose by allowing me to heal.
Which is the best way to write this book?
You can write this book by following the book planning and writing process in this way it helps you to put your story in perspective. When you do this is helps you to sort things out because you are seeing the events of your life in order and will see the patterns of your behaviour. As you consider the key messages of each chapter and how possibly you would advise another how to deal with these things, you gain massive insight.
The first draft will be an outpouring and it is in the editing that you will gain clarity. I confess that it is not an easy process, but it is cleansing for the soul and rewarding. I often look back at what I have written and think – was that really me?
You can also write this like a patchwork quilt. Write a list of possible chapters, in the order of the story and put them in a ‘hat’ and drawn one out as the urge to write comes to you. In this way you are dealing with what needs to be considered at that moment. Later you can timeline your patchwork quilt and put it in order. Though I suspect that you will have healed when writing and reflecting and may not wish to go back over old stuff.
Write a book to heal you and others
This is a book that allows to heal as you write, however, now you are driven to inspire others. Books often have this magical power that opens our eyes to a need that exists in the wider world. When you write a healing book for a bigger purpose it can lead you into a business that you might never have realised was bursting to get out.
We need stories; they are the foundation of humanity. It is with your story you grow, expand and transform. And it is your story that will enable someone else to know that it is possible for them to do the same.
Your book (or books) can become a brand asset, which is part of a bigger branding toolkit. You now have something, which can be used in many different ways – online programmes, building a speaking career, a methodology for x, workshops and whatever else you feel is right for you.
Your book is how someone else can get to know you without ever having met you, or after meeting you become more intimate with your thoughts and ideas.
It’s important to not get carried away and to ground your book with some business sense. Make sure that you have the right support around you to become clear on what your business is, who your ideal client is, your vision, core message and what you want to be known for among other things.
This book contains a package of knowledge which will help you to create something you can be proud of in the world. Your healing will continue as you inspire others.
Will your book become a bestseller?
Whilst being a bestseller is a wonderful accolade and achievement, touching the hearts of others and inspiring others to heal and grow is, in my opinion what we are here to do. And yes, you can do both, as long as you understand what is required to create a bestseller.
If you have been on an incredible healing journey, you may not have the energy to take your book and sell hundreds of thousands of copies. We will look at bestsellers another time.
Your inspirational message
Knowing that you have an inspirational message to share is the first step; how you get it planned, written, edited, published and marketing is simply a process. Apologies I make that sound easy and it is if you know how. It makes sense to do what you can and want to and outsource the rest.
When the process is connected to passion and purpose you have something that will have you smiling for a long time to come.
I often get huge goose bumps as I am drawn gently into the world of another’s passion and story. I know that when these books are published, that they will be using them as part of that bigger picture and will, without a doubt leave a magical spell in the hearts of others. Not only that, their content will provide the basis for many other products and services that I talk about.
I continue to maintain that a book is not just a book, it is a brand asset, it is a personal development tool, it creates clarity of purpose, draws out your purpose and lets you make a heart to heart connection with your community. When you are in your zone and can add genuine value you will get a return on your investment.
Should you publish?
No. If what you want to do is to write your story for you, why put yourself under that pressure?
You may have this feeling and calling that you want to get this book out, but something keeps holding your back. I’d suggest that this is a book just for you and to stop thinking about how to get it into the world. Write it and then decide what next?
Yes. If you want to create something with this book. Decide what your vision and strategy are and what you need to do to make this a reality. Consider what you will do with this book and create a plan.
The third and last way to write your healing book
My favourite book of all is the humble journal. I have many of them and when I feel I am entering a new or different phase of my life I start a new one. This is a place I can write, scribble, doodle and rant. It’s what I reach for when I wake up in the night feeling fearful or excited. Writing in my journal has saved my life.
One my healing bones journey it was my constant companion and research assistant. One day, like all of my other journals it will be burnt. I like to release the past to the flames and ignite something new.
I know many like to hold on to their journals, but for me, they need like the clutter in the house to be let go off. In this way we open up the space for new opportunity.
To start journaling all you need is a beautiful journal and a pen. Put it by your bed and when you clamber in, write about your day, perhaps ask some questions and most of all let go and simply must.
Many swear by morning pages, a few sides of your journal where you let your muse guide you in the morning. I find that in the morning the questions I have asked the night before seem to magically have answers.
There is no right or wrong way. Some love to free write and others love prompts. If you want some prompts, sign up to 101 days of being me and you will get a prompt for 101 days.
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